Sep 20, 2014

Try this Worksheet then turn it over ...........




Step One: Why Am I Here?

I want to have sex because __________
I want sex to make me feel _________
My definition of sex is _________

Step Two: What Do I Want?

What do I fantasize about? __________
What are my happiest sexual memories? _______________
Which sex scenes in fiction interest me?_________
Is there a kind of sex I have an intellectual fascination/curiosity with?__________
If I could do anything I wanted sexually, with a guarantee that I would have a willing partner for it
and no one would shame me for it, what would I want then?________

Step Three: What Will We Do?

The one thing I would most like to experience this time is __________________
Something that will relax me before sex is _________
Something that will get me turned on is __________
Do I have a pretty specific idea of what I want, or do I want to figure it out as we go?________
Do I want one of us to take charge of what we do? ______________
Do I want to do anything outside the “standard” idea of sex? ______________
Is there something I want to experiment with, but am not sure if I'll like it?_______

Step Three: What Will We Not Do?

If I need to stop, I will say “STOP” or __________ If I ask for a stop, it means sex needs to stop RIGHT
NOW. I can ask for this at any time for any reason. I will never debate or criticize when my partner asks to stop.
If I need a break, I will say is “HOLD ON” or _____________ If I use this word, it means we're going too fast
or I need to say something. Sex needs to pause RIGHT NOW until we both understand and have addressed the
My relevant health concerns are ______________ (STI/STDs, mobility/flexibility limitations,
surgeries/injuries, pregnancy, prosthetic s/implants...)
If I have PTSD/panic attack/phobia/other psychological triggers, they are ______________ (certain
words, being touched in a certain way, being unable to move...)
We will avoid STI transmission and/or pregnancy by ______________
Anything else my partner should know about me, my needs, limits, or desires?____________

Sep 4, 2014


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 What many men seek in marriage is not great beauty, brains or sex, but the simple feeling of "possessing" a woman. In other words, what they seek is a degree of ownership or power -This is the key to intimacy, how two people become one. When a man wins a woman's love, she entrusts herself to him. And of course he aspires to be worthy of this responsibility.Marriage is the exchange of feminine worldly power for masculine love and protection. Of course, women retain other forms of power, i.e. aesthetic, moral, emotional, intellectual etc.When a woman chooses a man to love, she will defer to his superior judgment and power. This is the only kind of man she should marry. This is how a woman loves.Similarly, a man cannot love a woman who defies and challenges him constantly.-"Femininity is a gentle tender quality found in a woman's appearance, manner and nature. A feminine woman gives the impression of softness and delicateness. She has a spirit of sweet submission, and a dependency upon men for their care and protection. Nothing about her appears masculine, no male aggressiveness, competence, efficiency, fearlessness, strength, or the ability to kill her own snakes."A man needs to feel that he is needed, and that he excels his woman in his role.If she becomes independent, he may question his purpose and his feelings for her "since his romantic feelings partly arise from her need to be protected, sheltered and cared for." -A woman should accept her husband at face-value and not try to change him. His pride and freedom are inviolable. She should focus on his good qualities and he will improve naturally in response to her.

Sep 3, 2014

Control and Dominate

 do not see how it is possible for a wife to submit to a man who does not dominate her. Without his dominance she has nothing to submit to. This is where a lot of men go wrong; they try to have a marriage that is a democracy where power shifts between husband and wife. In such a marriage the wife never feels entirely safe and secure because at times she has a supporting husband but other times she is all alone.

Take control of blow jobs. When receiving a blowjob, instead of letting her do all the work, "face fuck" her. Grab the side of her head and push her down onto your cock. For beginners, don't push too far down. For more hardcore individuals, push her down until it reaches the back of her throat. Pull out, look her in the eye and smile while stroking her cheek. Then ram your cock back down her throat. Repeat until satisfied. "You should see how hot/slutty you look with my cock down your throat." For subs, make her do this on her knees. If she closes her eyes or looks down, tug at her hair or grab her chin so she's lo at you: "Eyes open/Look up, I want to see that pretty face of yours as you suck me."
Facials. "What a pretty face you have...I think I want to see it covered in my cum". "I'm going to cum all over that pretty face of yours." Once you've proceeded to unleash your load all over her face, smear some cum over her lips and get some on your fingers. Make her lick it off. Take a picture.
Sex toys! This could honestly be a thread in itself. Toys for bondage (i.e. rope, handcuffs, tape, blindfolds), spanking (i.e. whips, paddles - though you can easily substitute with household items, things like rulers, the back of a hair brush, a cooking spoon, a belt, etc), vibrators, anal toys, dildos.
Take control of her masturbation. Force her to touch herself but make it clear that she is NOT allowed to bring herself to orgasm. Get a remote controlled vibrator. Tie her up and use it on her - control the settings: bring her to the brink, then stop it. "How badly do you want to cum right now?" "Give me a good reason to let you come (let her stammer out some answer)...not good enough."
Submission. Make her wear a collar. Tell her she can only move on her hands and knees unless you give her permission. Command her in all aspects (i.e. "I want your eyes lowered unless I say otherwise." "Look at me only when I speak to you." "I want you naked for the rest of the night, is that clear? Now strip") Make her confirm your dominance: After each command: "Do you understand me?" "Are you going to obey like a good little slave?" Make her thank you after performing certain tasks, this is especially fun in terms of punishment: "I want you to thank me every time I slap you, do you understand?" Reinforce your punishments "You know why you're being punished don't you?" (Make her give you the reason) "That's right, because you were a disobedient little bitch. Now are you going to do better next time?"
More intense "rape" play: Shove her face down into a pillow while you take her from behind. Hold her down by firmly pressing your palm to her back, or twist her wrists behind her back. Pull on her hair (again while in doggy style).
Slap her across the face : Slap her face with your hand (or cock), alternate with tender cheek cupping between slaps. My Other half tends to use slaps as punishment (aside from the usual spanking): slap"Don't disobey me again." slap.
Choking: Place your hands around her neck and squeeze lightly - never squeeze for too long, and make sure to constantly monitor her to ensure that she can breathe properly!! Please NEVER put direct pressure on the front of the throat (trachea area). Use light pressure with your fingers or thumb along the side. PLEASE PLEASE research breath play if you are interested in this - I cannot stress the importance of safety, there are MAJOR risks engaging in this activity and it is not something that should be experimented with without knowing how to go about it!!
Make her clean you up after you cum: If you cum on your stomach, make her lick it up. "Make sure you lick it clean like a good slut, don't waste a single drop of cum." Or if you cum in her mouth: "Make sure you swallow every drop of cum I give you." Reward her with a kiss or glide a finger against her lips once she's swallowed: "Good girl." "You're such a cum-loving little whore." Lastly, demand that she cleans your cock after she "made a mess by dripping her pussy juices all over it." (Not a good idea after anal play for obvious reasons - instead, wipe your cock across her breasts/stomach)

control  and  dominate